Language Alter Ego

Is the use of the partner's language as the “relationship language” linked to its status in the country of residence?

I had a chance to research intercultural couples back to my university years. And I discovered that there could be a different dynamics depending on the language choice in a couple. It could be a partner's language, both languages of the partners, or it could be a third language.

When it was about the country of residence, often the use of the partner's language as the "relationship language" could be linked to its status in the country of residence. If one partner is more socially integrated into the local community and has a stronger support network in the country of residence, they may be more inclined to use the local language in the relationship.

Several factors influence the choice of a "relationship language" in a multilingual relationship, and the status of the language in the country of residence is one of them.

In countries where one language is dominant or widely spoken, the partner who speaks that language fluently may use it as the primary language of communication within the relationship. This is especially true if the dominant language is also the official language or widely used in daily interactions.

The availability and accessibility of language resources, such as language classes, media, and social events in the country of residence, can influence the choice of the "relationship language." Partners may prefer to use a language that they can easily practice and develop their language skills.

The cultural affiliation and identification with the country of residence can also play a role in the choice of the "relationship language." Partners who feel a strong connection to the local culture and language may prefer to use it in their relationship.

The ease and comfort of using a particular language in daily life can influence its adoption as the "relationship language." Partners may choose a language that allows them to communicate more effectively and comfortably with each other.

The level of fluency and proficiency in each partner's language can also impact the choice of the "relationship language." If one partner is more proficient in a particular language, they may use it more frequently in the relationship.

It is essential to note that the choice of the "relationship language" can be dynamic and may evolve over time. Partners may switch between languages based on the context, their language development, and their changing social and cultural experiences in the country of residence. The use of a particular language as the "relationship language" is a complex and individual decision influenced by multiple factors, including language status in the country of residence.